This section lists books, articles, and other inspirational resources that I find helpful in dealing with infertility.
(1) Living with Infertility – A Christian Perspective
For a time I was searching for Christian infertility books online, and there are quite a number of them actually. But this is the one I think that is most helpful. What I like about it is that it does not subscribe to the name-it-and-claim-it mentality, which can only lead to devastating disappointments, heartaches, even depression.
Some people, in their desire to help, give false hopes, as if they know the future. “It will come when you least expect it.” “Claim it! Have faith! Pray! God will give you a baby!” – as if I do not pray hard enough, and as if they know so much about my faith. Some pray for me as if demanding God to give us a baby. Who are we to demand from our God? I thank God for these friends and relatives who are concerned for us. Even with the best intentions in mind, they do not know our future – whether we will have a baby or not. Not having a baby doesn’t mean having lesser faith. Or being less blessed. Only God knows the future. And He blessed us according to His goodness, His grace and mercy. His perfect will. The book helps one focus on submitting to God’s will. I bought an online copy of this book through Kindle.
“This book is not about living THROUGH infertility, as though it was a tunnel on the way to the ultimate destination of childbearing. It is about living within infertility, continuing to have a spiritual life, and doing something more than simply sitting around waiting for a baby.”
From the book’s introduction:
“Reading a book… won’t help you get what you want; nor will it stop you wanting it. But reading a book can help change us…This book attempts to reframe the Christian experience of infertility, to enable you to see it in the context of a wider story of your life with God.”
An excerpt from this book can to downloaded to Kindle for free.
(2) The Power of Being Thankful
In whatever circumstance, the Lord’s will for us is to be thankful. (“Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18)
Being thankful helps us to focus on what we have, and not miss out on God’s blessings. The opposite, worrying or being bitter, leads us to focus on what we do not have, and that doesn’t help at all in living our life joyfully to the fullest.
Recently discovered this book through an Instagram post. I don’t have this book yet, but I’ve been reading some entries of this devotional online and they are very encouraging indeed. Once I find a printed copy of this, I will definitely buy (at least) one!
Here’s an excerpt from the book – first 10 days.
The Power of Being Thankful – January 1 to 10
Care for Couples Struggling with Infertility from desiringgod.com
Finding Hope in the Midst of Suffering from For the Church website (ftc.co)
Mind Your Own Womb from nadirahangail.com
When God’s Timing is Different to Ours from meplusthree.com
Why Do Others Get the Good That I Deserve from desiringgod.com
God’s Promise for the Disappointed from desiringgod.com
These are excerpts from different sources, shared by friends.
God’s timing, especially his delays, may make us think he is not answering or is not answering the way we want. But he will meet all our needs according to his perfect schedule and purpose.
Paul knew intimately and intensely the power of God to do things that could not be imagined. His own conversion from persecutor of the church to follower of Christ was a perfect example of the power of God.
Never measure God’s unlimited power by your limited expectations.
– Our Daily Bread
Prayer Point 392: O my LORD, when my mind is weighed down by many questions with no apparent answers, remind me that You have all the answers and reasons, Amen.